Apne Bacho ki Jinsi Taleem


Jwan hone tak larke aur larkya amooman jinsi awamil k bare main maloomat hasil kr lete hain magar waldain ya usatzah se nhi bal k dusrey zrai se.doctoro aur degar tibi mahireen se bhi nhi bal-k apne dosto aur jan-ney walo se jo khud bhi is qism k ilm se be-bahrah hote hain.ya phr kuch kitabo aur risalo se jo amooman gair ma-yari hote hain.nateeja ye hota hai k waldain aur usatzah ki jhuti sharam ki wja se nojwan bacho ko jinsi maloomat(tibi aur shraee) ya tou pohncti he nhi ya pohncti hain tou bohat naqis jis se faidah kam aur nuqsan zayad hone ka khatra hota hai.

is trah hmare nojwan shree aur tibi taleem se na bildar rahte hain aur muta-did jinsi oham aur preshanyo ka shekar ho jate hain apni parhai aur dusrey kam kaj main dilchaspi lena gum kr dete hain apne apko jinsi tor na-ahal smjhna shru kr dete hain.yaseet aur mayosi chha jati hai.kuch log ataiyo k hath lag jate hain jo unki preshanyo main mazeed izafa krte hain.waldain bhi un ki ye halat be-basi se dekhte rahte hain aur qism qism k andesho main giraftar ho jate hain aur bsa-oqat dant dipat aur skhti krte hain magar sab be-sood hota ha.mustanid doctor se mashwrah talab krna bahtar hai magar kai doctor bhi is masley aur us k hal se na-hald hain.

apne bache ko is preshani se bchane k lye waldain kya kr skte hain?is ka jwab tou ye hai k pahle inko khud ye maloomat hasil krni chiye aur phr bacho ko munatqil krni chiye.swal ye paida hota hai k jwan larko aur larkyo se kis trah itne hasaas mozo par bat ki jai.tbai sharam bhi arey ay ge?zrur ay ge

is masley ka hal ye hai bachpan se he is masley par guftugu ki jai.bacha dairh do sal ka ho jai tou jism k dusrey hiso ki trah paisahb ya pakhane ki jgah ka naam bhi btaya jai, pahley tou ye k paishab ya pakhane k asli naam jan lye jain,farzi naam na lye jain.ye dono amal fitri hain aur un main kisi sharam ki zrurat nhi hai.phr paishab,pakhane ki jagho k bhi shi naam lye jain.yani ye bhi kha ja skta hain pakahane ki jgah aur paishab ki nali,is k ilava jo alfaz ap munasib smhain.aise alfaz jaise "uzw" ya "maqad"bhi istemal ho skte hain.agar bacha apne uzw ko hath lgay tou chiragh paa hone ki zrurat nhi hai.albat teen sal ki umar se usko ye smjhana chiye k log us amal ko bura smjhte hain islye kisi k samney aisa nhi krna chiye.isi trah ye bhi taleem de jay nanga rahna acha nhi hota.

bacho ko waldain k chupe hue uzw ko dekhne ki bohat khawhish hoti hai.chote bacho ki ye khawhish puri kr deni chiye.magar aise triqe se k inhen koi khas bat bhi mahsoos na ho.yani kapre bdalte wqt in ko kamro main rahne dya jai ya nhane aur paishab pa-pakhana krte wqt sath rahne dya jai.aurto aur mardo ka farq is trah in ki smjh main ajay ga q k walid aur waldah dono ko is amal main hisa lena chiye.ye btaya ja skta hai k aurto ki paishab ki jgah mardo se mukhtlif hoti hai yani in ki nali nhi hoti bal-k sirf aik surakh hota hai.

larka ya larki char panch ka ho to mahwari ka amal b dekha dena chiye ta k is ko maloom ho jai k mahene main aik dfa khwateen k paishab k surakh se kuch khoon nikalta hai.is k barey main bhi taleem de jai k ye batain bhi waldain k ilava kisi dusrey se na krna q k log in bato ko acha nhi smjhte.agar waldah hamla ho aur pait brha hua tou tu bcho ko ye bta dena chiye k pait main bacha hai aur wo 9 mah bad nikle ga.agar bacha paida hone k bad guftugu ho to keh skte hain k ye maa k pait main se nikla hai.

6 7 sal ki umar main shadi ki ahmiyat btai ja skti hai k bache sirf shadi k bad paida hote hain.8 9 sal ki umar main jab mazeed wazahat talab ki jai tou kehna chiye k jab miyan bv aik he bistar par late jate hain tou pait main bacha ban jata hai.10 11 sall tak bacha mazeed wzahat talab krta hai tou keh skte hain mard ka nutfa paishab ki nali main se nikalta hai aur bv ki andam nehani(paishab ki jgah) main chala jata hai wha andar anda hota hai jis se nutfa milta hai aur bacha ban na shru ho jata hai.nutfe (sperm) aur anday(egg ) ki tsaveer  bhi dekha deni chiye.

isi umar k larkey ko ahtalam k barey main b bta dena chiye k foto main ye nutfey bnte hain tou garhey mai halat main mani(semen) ki surat main paishab ki nali se nikalte hain.amooman sote main.magar baaz-oqat qatrah qatrah kr k jagte main b.

is umar k bacho ko larkyo main seene k ubharne aur zery naf bal nikalne k barey main bhi bta dena chiye.aur ye bhi k islam k asool k mutabiq kam-az-kam aik mah main ye bal saf krlene chiye aur unhen sfai ki tafseel b bta deni chiye yani bal saf krne ki machino se ya bal sfa powder,cream(larkyo k lye) aur blade(larko k lye).chattyo k barey main ye bhi btaya ja skta hai k bacha paida hone k bad in dudh utar ata hai ta k bacha pee ske.

13 14 sal ki umar main jab nojwan pochain tou mubashrat ka asal amal btaya ja skta hai.yani khawand ki paishab ki nali sakht ho jati hai aur bv k paishab k surakh main chali jati hai jaise paon mozey k andar chala jata hai ya salai surme dani main chali jati hai.is amal main dono miyan bv ko bohat lutf ata hai aur sath he mard ka nutfa bv k andar muntaqil ho jata hai.jis se bad main bacha ban jata hai.is amal ka islami pahlu b sath btana zruri hai k miyan bv k darmyan ye amal pur-lutf hone aur bacha paida krne k ilava aik nafal ibadat k swab ka bais bhi hai.magar bgair shadi k ye amal krne ka bohat skaht gunah hai is ko zina kehte hain.agar shadi shuda fard ye amal kre tou uski saza mout hai.wo bhi sangsaar kr k aur gair shadi shudah k lye 80 korey marna.

aj kal tou is k sath sath adam mudafeat ki jinsi bemari(AIDS) ki holinak mout se mutanabah krdea chiye aur isi trah degar bemaryo(sozak,atshk wgairah)k nuqsanat se bhi.yani k zina bra gunah hone k sath sath in mohlik bemaryo ki wja bhi banta hai.is k sath sath ahtalam,mubashrat aur haiz k bad gusal ki sahrae ahmiyat b btani chiye.

mani se badan aur kapre pak krne ka triqa b btain yani khafef na-paki hai.jhar dena chentain marna ya mutasirah hisa dho dena kafi hai.musht zani par bhi gutugu zruri hai aur ye btain k is se jinsi khrabi nhi hoti aur imam Ahmad bin Hanbal ne is ko jaiz qrar dya hai magar baqi imamo ne isko hram btaya hai.imam Abu Hanifa kehte hain shadeed jazbat main aur zina se bachne k lye agar kr lya jai tou umeed hai k Allah Tala maaf farmaye gain.

15 sal k nojawan ko myan bv k taluqat k dusrey pahluon par bhi islami taleem deni chiye yani un k haqooq-o-fraiz.10 12 sal k bad nojwano ko upar dye gaye mozoat par achi kitabain bhi mohiya krna chiye.awal tou Quran Aur Hadees main jo mwad mojod hai wo parhwain.is k ilava bahashti zevar main bhi kuch maloomat hain.